The main wounds that I usually guide women through.
INNER CHILD WOUND
As children, we come into this would already carrying past experiences and having experiences and traumas handed down through our mother and father on our epigenetics. Check out more on that HERE. But, basically, the unresolved traumas our parents experience can be transmitted to us. We then add on all of the negative experiences and traumas of our own childhood. The truth is that even if we had great parents, no parent could have given us EVERYTHING we possibly needed and wanted. Parents can only give and go as far as their own experiences, patterns and traumas allow. You may not have been given all physically, emotionally and mentally that you truly needed and that results in your nervous system creating defenses and patterns that are most likely not actually serving you in a positive way now, as an adult.
THE MOTHER WOUND (these two are closely related-the Father Wound is tied in as well).
The mother wound is basically the wound(s) that show up when we did not receive everything we needed in healthy ways. This can be from both difficult mother/caregiver relationships and ones we saw as wonderful. It doesn't mean our mother/caregiver was "bad". The truth is, every caregiver does the best they can with where they are at (their own wounds/patterns/capacity) but that doesn't mean we received everything we needed as children. When this happens, our inner child gets stuck at that age.
It can show up as shame, self-criticism, low self-worth, feeling not enough, anxiety, lack of full self-expression (unable to be fully SEEN and HEARD), guilt, feeling you can't be in the spotlight or wanting it because of the attention it brings you. It can also be seen in supporting others but not able to ask for or receive support, self-sabotage, addictions (food, drugs, alcohol, sex, etc) and being rigid and controlling.
The mother wound is also generational. Mothers have been wounded for centuries and we have an opportunity to break that cycle.
This is a result of many many years of patriarchal systems. The ways women are seen and how we see each other is evident both consciously and subconsciously.
Some examples of how this shows up:
When we don' feel wholly and fully supported by the other women in our life (or even some).
When we don't feel like we can be 100% ourselves around any of the women in our lives.
When we feel we are judged by or we judge other women or feel comparison/competition with other women.
When we feel a distrust of women.
When we are in groups of women (friends, mom groups, work) and we may feel connected to some but not all, we may even feel like we have to hide a lot of ourselves with women even in these intimate spaces.
Learn more about the work we can do to heal these wounds by clicking below.